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practical strategies to help parents navigate today’s chaotic and challenging world of parenting

A small, easy-to-understand book that gets straight to the essence of how parents can be consistent, kind, and affirming in keeping their kids safe and helping them become strong adults. Instead of loading guilt and advice onto the backs of today’s busy and harried parents, the Kesslers give them the key to a lasting life of fulfillment for parents and the generations that follow.

The Perfect System of Parenting
About Book

We believe that imperfect parents can raise their children on the foundation of a perfect system

Don’t worry — the Kesslers know that parents aren’t perfect. But they do believe that imperfect parents can raise their children on the foundation of a perfect system: the laws of nature, in particular the principle of causality — that every action causes an equal and opposite reaction. The Kesslers show parents practical ways to teach their kids — from infancy to young adulthood — that negative actions cause negative results, and positive actions cause positive results, equipping them for happy and fulfilling lives at home and beyond. They also show parents how to avoid “the love ambush” — the “you don’t love me anymore” line used by children — by letting their children know their role is not to receive love from them but to keep them safe.

We have used the Perfect System in raising our two boys. For us, the outcome has been spectacular.

You could say that our outcome was predictable, because the methods and techniques we used to raise our children were perfect. They are perfect because the laws of the Perfect System are perfect. This is not a statement of arrogance. It is a statement of fact. The physical laws of the universe (the Perfect System) are irrefutable and so in their very essence are perfect.

Foreward by Isaac Kessler

Foreward by Jacob Kessler

What's Inside

Foreword

Introduction

An Important Note to Single and Divorced Parents

Part 1 / Learning the System

1 / The Origins of the Perfect System
2 / What Is the Perfect System?

Part 2 / Working the System

3 / The Real Meaning of Parental Love
4 / The Rules of Parenting

Part 3 / The System Through the Ages and Stages

5 / 0 to 3 Years
6 / 3 to 5 Years
7 / 6 to 9 Years
8 / 10 to 13 Years
9 / 14 Years and Older

Conclusion

For Further Reading

Read The Companion Book

By using scientific examples, from the original Big Bang theory to chaos theory and a principle called “restriction,” The Perfect System™ shows readers how to apply the simple, unchanging laws of the universe to their own lives and in doing so find the fulfilment they are searching for. Supported by science but also informed by compassion, this is a radically new system for living well and achieving true and long-lasting fulfilment.

Author's Bio

About the authorS

Syd and Ellen Kessler live in Toronto, where Syd, a renowned advertising executive and the author of The Perfect System, is an investor and mentor in new businesses and Ellen is an elementary-school science teacher.

From the Author
When Ellen was pregnant with our first son, Jacob, we decided to write two wish lists: the first was a list of what we wanted for our new child and the second was a list of what we hoped for ourselves as we raised our new child. If this exercise revealed conflicts between the two columns, we could clear them up before active parenting duty began. We defined successful parenting as the ability to execute the wishes on both lists.

Here’s what we put on our first list: To be a happy child. To learn to take responsibility for his or her actions. To be a kind and sharing person. To always give the maximum effort to whatever he or she chooses to do. To achieve his or her ultimate potential. To understand that a bad action does not make him or her a bad person, just a good person who has done a bad thing. To love and respect nature and Mother Earth. To realize his or her uniqueness and to celebrate that uniqueness and the uniqueness of others as representing each person’s special genius. To understand that all men and women have equal rights. To have a lifelong joy of learning. To ensure personal fulfillment by putting others before self.

And here’s what we put on our second list: Never to be held hostage by our child’s misbehaviour. To spend maximum and valued time with our child. Whenever possible to take our child with us to cultural events (movies, concerts, plays, etc.). To have our child experience our friends by physically being in their presence. With discretion, to have our child share in our total life experience. To be always aware that there are no bad children, only bad actions. To have as little crying and as much laughter as possible. To make the act of parenting a fulfilling experience. To prepare our child for a future that might not include us.

At first we felt intimidated. Our menu of goodies was grandiose. Could we deliver all of the items on our wish list? Did we have the knowledge, ability, and tools to do so?

We have used the Perfect System in raising our two boys. For us, the outcome has been spectacular. You could say that our outcome was predictable, because the methods and techniques we used to raise our children were perfect. They are perfect because the laws of the Perfect System are perfect. This is not a statement of arrogance. It is a statement of fact. The physical laws of the universe (the Perfect System) are irrefutable and so in their very essence are perfect.

We believe that the Perfect System will give you the insights and tools you need to develop, and celebrate, harmony and order in your family’s life.

Syd Kessler

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